The thing that has me upset now is that yesterday she called and asked about his 15mo check up and I told her he was still in the 10th percentile for weight, he's 21 lb. But the pediatrician is happy, they say he's always been smaller, he's constantly gaining and he's in the 50th percentile for height, so he's tall. They see no problems. Dave and I are both small and short. Duh. No surprise. But my mom says, "You need to start FEEDING that boy!!" First, she knows that I am constantly annoyed with her on this feeding issue. Second, what does she think I do, have him on a diet?? He actually eats pretty good for me. 3 full meals, 2 snacks. The only thing that I am not pleased with is that he won't eat meat yet, so he doesn't get as much protein as I'd like, but the doc. says the milk has all the protein he needs.

I wanted so badly to call her back and ask her what the heck she meant by that comment! But I just didn't even bother. I am trying really hard to avoid a big blow-up, but she just has NO respect for what I say when it comes do DJ. Thus, I told her I wouldn't be interested in getting together for lunch this week. And I'll be doing it much less until she changes. Although I've tried this in the past and it doesn't seem to make much difference.

The other thing that is on my mind about my mom is the holidays. All 3 of us siblings said that exchanging gifts at my parents on the 23rd worked best for us and then we'd do dinner together at my sisters the 25th. (The reason we have to exchange earlier is that my mom refuses to lug her gifts anywhere.) My mom refused the 23rd giving all sorts of stupid excuses like she may not be ready yet (she's ready NOW, who is she fooling?) or we ALWAYS exchange the 24th- but hello, two of us are married now and the 24th we will both be at the in-laws all day. (As we are spending the 25th with my parents.) You'd think my mom would be happy we're doing the 25th with her? Nope.

So on the 25th it's going to work like this: open gifts at home with DJ, go over my moms (at some point I need to make a greenbean casserole to take to Rosie's, but with going to my moms I honestly have no idea how I'll have the TIME) and then over to Rosie's by 5pm for dinner! If we could have done the 23rd with my mom, we would have had a leisurely time at home in the morning with DJ, I'd have had pleanty of time to make my dish and then get to my sisters. Oh, and plus, I won't be able to exchange with my bro & sis at my parents since they won't be there, so I'll have to do that on the 23rd (as we originally wanted) with them. Does this make any sense?? It's confusing to me! But to make a long story short, all of us siblings have to go over to my mom's on different dates that work for us to exchange- instead of doing the 23rd that works for everyone!! Oh, and we're seeing my parents the night of the 23rd anyway, as we're going across town to see my mom's family. I thought it made perfect sense then to get together prior.

When I told my mom "wait until Bill gets married", she said, "IT WASN'T HER PROBLEM". That is my mom's attitude about this. If we didn't have Dave's grandma's on Xmas Eve, I'd go to my parents then and not see them at all on Xmas. Even then though, that would mean I wouldn't see my bro or sis, or my dad's family- I only see THEM once a year. ugh. My mom is just being a bitch about the whole thing. I can't believe my dad didn't put his foot down. But, it's also the worst time of year to be fighting with your parents, esp. when they are like mine who literally spend hundreds of dollars on you. What am I going to do, insult them and take their gifts at the same time??

Sorry I'm rambling, but at least it feels good to get some of it out. I wish I knew how to get my mom to change. She's just so unhappy with her life that she fights with everyone, just for something to do, I swear.