Here's why I'm asking: We have a male friend who has a lady friend. They were dating, then not dating, then friends with benefits (long, long story)....now I don't know exactly what they are, he says friends. However, this guy takes money from her to pay his bills (they only dated a couple of months) and she buys him things- like a Wii. The other day he was here and she called him and he ASKED for $200...then it changed to $300...and he phrased it so that he wouldn't come and hang out with her if she didn't give him the money.

So after months of watching this, when he got off the phone I told him it was wrong of him to do this to her. No matter that she is stupid and should know better as a grown woman. He just plain shouldn't use someone like that. After discussing it for a while with Dave and I...he either didn't get it or just didn't care. I did feel sort of bad because he sort of does this thing that makes you feel bad for him, like, oh, you think I'm a horrible person, a liar, you don't believe me, lalala..... I did tell him WHY it bothers me, and that's because I was in a situation where a guy was using me for money, and took a lot of money from me to pay his bills and then left me holding the bag. I figured he might understand more where I was coming from and not just trying to be a jerk to him. But, he didn't get that either. Anyway, it was MY bad too, as it's HER bad as well.

But, my thoughts on friends is that if you can't tell a friend what you think...what kind of friends are you? I mean, even if a friend is doing something that is wrong and it has nothing to do with me.....I still feel like I should say something, and maybe a little over half the time I do. A lot of the time I just don't know because it seems like the norm for people to just sort of ignore this stuff if it doesn't involve them. I've been in cases where in a group of friends say a certain person has done some pretty shitty stuff to me and no one sticks up for me....and I just think it's shitty. I mean, if that person does it to one friend, wouldn't they do it to another??

I don't know, I guess this is getting long winded and I don't know what else to say. But, I just wanted to know what you all think- what do you guys do in a case where a friend is doing something you feel is wrong or whatever? Maybe I'm just butting in and I should just keep my mouth shut?